the light of my life

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isabel
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the light of my life

Post by isabel » Fri Jun 01, 2018 7:34 am

my friends here didn't know her, and often in a community like this we don't end up talking about the other people in our lives. but i do count some of the people here as my friends and i wanted to share this with them.

i lost my mother very suddenly this week. i had a ticket booked to see her on 1st june, and she died early on the 28th. i missed her by a few days. we had both been looking forward to time together so much. it was very, very unexpected.

losing her was the biggest fear of my life - i don't think anything can rattle me after this, because what could possibly be worse than this? she was one of those rare people in the world who is so warm and peaceful to interact with, even briefly. a few years ago I began to make a conscious effort to be extra attentive to her, to make time for her, listen to her, call her often and check in when i was far away, and to tell her many times how wonderful she was, how much i loved her, and most of all, to just enjoy her company.

today, i am SO thankful for that small decision which resulted in so many many wonderful memories. we had no idea - zero - that she would be gone like this. we also could never bear to think of losing someone as precious and lovely as her. but this is a fact of life that people die - the people we love the most die.

i suppose this is a bit of a PSA to make time for the important people while they are around.

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Re: the light of my life

Post by Alterith » Fri Jun 01, 2018 7:56 am

Deepest condolences, Isabel.

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Re: the light of my life

Post by Theid » Fri Jun 01, 2018 8:09 am

You have my deepest condolences.

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Re: the light of my life

Post by Aine » Fri Jun 01, 2018 8:44 am

I'm so sorry for your loss, Isabel. Thank you for the reminder to make sure the special people in our lives know exactly how we feel about them, and to take every opportunity to keep connected.

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Re: the light of my life

Post by hyzael » Fri Jun 01, 2018 11:15 am

love em if you got em. Can't agree more, the time spent here is borrowed, and I feel like it's real easy to get sidetracked with the parts of life that don't matter and neglect spending time with those that do. I'm sorry Isabel, if you need to talk I'm always around. I lost my Dad two years back in similar fashion so I understand where you're at.

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Re: the light of my life

Post by Tomm » Fri Jun 01, 2018 4:29 pm

I'm really sorry to hear this, my condolences to you.

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Re: the light of my life

Post by aang » Fri Jun 01, 2018 5:57 pm

So sorry to hear that, good to hear you did spend time with her as you could. We're here if you need anything

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Re: the light of my life

Post by Reyne » Fri Jun 01, 2018 7:12 pm

I'm sorry Isabel. Wish there was something I could say but there isn't really. :\
i suppose this is a bit of a PSA to make time for the important people while they are around.
But thank you for the reminder. It is easy to forget.

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Re: the light of my life

Post by Raya » Fri Jun 01, 2018 7:58 pm

Hug Isabel. There are no words to express.

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Re: the light of my life

Post by Sarryn » Fri Jun 01, 2018 8:20 pm

Super bummer Isabel :( sorry to hear this. Like others have said glad you got to spend time and make good memories. I just spent a week with my favorite uncle in a Texas hospice. Not sure if it's better to have loved ones taken abruptly or very slowly. Either way it's painful and I feel for you. Cherish the memories you made, prayers are with you and yours.

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